Thursday, June 20, 2013

It Gets Better…. Then it Gets Bad Again

If there is one thing I know with certainty, it is that life gets REALLY hard to do sometimes. Even if you have had a relatively easy life with two loving parents, a dog, and a life in the suburbs, things can get hard, and sometimes you don’t feel like you have the energy to make it.

I’ve definitely had my fair share of trouble. On top of a long history of tying to hide my depression, I have been physically and emotionally abused by people who swear their love and devotion. Years of harbored feelings of regret, worthlessness, and misery still rush back at the drop of a word, and I am sent spiraling down into another chasm of despair that I rarely have the energy to climb out of. Frequently these feelings invade my current relationships, making them difficult to maintain, further exaggerating my loneliness. When this happens, sometimes apologies just aren’t enough to fix things. So I’m left wondering what to do to make my life suck less.

I wish I could give you a go-to answer, but if there is something I have learned through all of this, there isn’t just one solution. Sometimes, just getting out of bed feels like the biggest accomplishment of your life, and maybe it doesn’t seem like much to everyone else, but when you have been stuck there for a week drowning in sorrow, let me tell you, you have done well by getting up, and I am celebrating with you. Getting out of bed is proof that IT GETS BETTER. And you know what? It will get bad again. But that’s ok. Because the trick to getting through life is not looking for some cure-all or a Prince Charming to give you a happily ever after ending. It’s finding a way to cope in the midst of all of it. It’s finding a way to get out of bed even when you would rather lay there and die.

One thing that has always stuck in my head is an old friend’s word of reminder: “This too shall pass.” Everyday you have another chance at making your life suck less. Start with getting up, and the rest will come a little easier than you’d expect it would, until one day you realize that you made it through it, and you are that much stronger for the next time a shitstorm blows through. Remember: If you made it through this one, you can make it through the next one. Just hold on. It will pass. That, I can promise.

Be strong.

My ears are always open if a friend is what you need.

Thursday, February 7, 2013

A Housekeeper's Guide on How to Conduct Yourself at a Hotel

  1. First, and most importantly, treat your stay less like you are at your own home and more like you are a guest in someone else’s. Because you are a guest. Treat us like we are a privilege, not an obligation. We will treat you well, but at the end of the day, keep in mind that when you leave, we have to clean up your room in 30 minutes for minimum wage with no benefits.
  2. Please don’t leave any bodily fluids on the furniture or in the shower. That includes urine. You might pee in your shower at home, but I don’t know you or your medical history. When it comes down to it, it is unsanitary, and the toilet is only 2 feet away.
  3. Pour out all liquids before your cups go into the garbage. When they spill out, it makes our garbage leak all over the carpet.
  4. Make sure to leave the air in your room on a decent temperature when you  leave. We move around constantly and quickly so if we go into your room and the temperature is on 80 degrees, there is a likely chance that we could pass out. The preferable temperature is 67 degrees.
  5. If you do not want service or want to sleep in without disruption, put the Do Not Disturb hanger on the outside of your door. If you do not have this hanger on your door, we will knock. Keep in mind that we are simply doing our job. If you choose not to put the hanger on your door and we knock, please answer the door. Don’t ignore the knock because we will walk in on you. And don’t just yell. It is often hard to hear a response through those thick doors. And when you do answer, please be polite. Don’t slam doors in our faces. It is too tempting to lose our job over it.
  6. Instead of telling us to come back later and clean your room, just get towels and other amenities from us then if you need them. Coming back to your room could be a strain on our strict schedule.
  7. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, do NOT ask for a late checkout. Go to a park or something if you need some extra time. We can not work past 2:00 on a weekday, 3:00 on a weekend. So if there are five 1:00 checkouts, that puts us in a bind.
  8. When you checkout, please remove your Do Not Disturb hanger from your door, and drop off your keys at the front desk. This alerts the hotel that you have left so the housekeeper can clean your room so that another guest can enter it.
  9. It is always a nice surprise to walk into a stayover and find a tip (even if it is only a couple of dollars), so if you can afford to be generous, please do. You will make someone’s terrible day slightly better.
  10. Each room comes furnished with a makeup remover on the amenity tray in the bathroom. Please use this to remove your makeup instead of a wash cloth, as it irreparably stains the cloth. Meaning, we have to take it out of use. If you need more than one makeup remover, ask the front desk or a housekeeper. We will be glad to provide you with more.
  11. There will always be accidents involving blood and excrement. If there are, make sure to bag it up, and throw it away. Or at least make the stain visible (i.e. don’t wad up a towel or throw a blanket over the sheets) so that it wont be touched by other people. Or better yet, inform someone so that we can be warned and make necessary provisions. And if you do leave it for us to clean, please leave a tip. On average, we get about $4 per checkout, $2 per stayover BEFORE taxes. That is nowhere close to enough money to clean up your blood or poop.
  12. Do not leave snot or loogies in the sink. When they dry, it is close to impossible to remove, and even when it does come off, it is slimy and turns stomachs. Nobody wants to take a break from cleaning to vomit just because you were disgusting.*
  13. If you chew smokeless tobacco, please dispose of your spit cup properly. This means, empty the cup into the toilet before you leave and flush, or, if possible, use a bottle, and place it, with the cap on, in the garbage (see #12 note* above).
  14. If you are staying in a hotel for an extended period of time, make sure your room gets cleaned at least every 3 days. The hotel recommends once a week, but a week of not cleaning the bathtub can be a tedious task when it does get cleaned.
  15. And remember, the less you use, the less we have to replace for the next guest. The amenities are there for your convenience, but if you don’t use them, you don’t have to take them.
So be sanitary, be polite to your neighbors and hotel workers, and we will ensure that you enjoy your stay with us.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

Occupy Wall Street is not a hippy movement. It is not a Democrat vs. Republican movement. This is a collection of people from all walks of life who are fed up with being taken advantage of by the government who is supposed to be protecting us. This beautiful movement is both military and civilian, old and young, rich and poor. Have YOU ever felt the cruel hand of injustice in your life? Then this movement is yours.
The time is right, and the people are ready to stand up for each other and for what is right. And it is due time. We have let the top 1% control and abuse us for entirely too long. We are the 99%. We are the majority. We are the people who must take progression into our own hands. Without advancement, we will all perish. The 1%-controlled mass media refuses to cover this movement, so we must take the initiative and take to the streets to get the word out to everyone. We must become our own media (-JH). This movement WILL survive, but only if we band together. So, grab your friends, your family, your neighbors, your co-workers, random people on the street, and tell them that their happiness is worth fighting for, their freedom is worth fighting for. Make them aware of the revolution that is happening, and encourage them to get involved.
Be strong, you amazing creatures. Don't lose your drive. Results will be slow in coming, but don't get discouraged. We will prevail! Just wait, and you will see.

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Saturday, June 4, 2011

Classic Case of Rich Stealing from the Poor

It is nothing new. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. More importantly, the rich get greedier, and the poor suffer as a result. Most recently, there has been an increase among prosperous countries, such as Saudi Arabia, South Korea, and China, buying land in impoverished countries, mostly third-world, in which only the invading country benefits.
Although profitable, the wealthier countries are lacking in self-sufficiency. There is either a deficit or a potential deficit of food production at home, so these countries are purchasing land from countries who are in desperate need of that extra income. Unfortunately, the repercussions of this are tremendously hazardous to the welfare of humanity.

According to a study at the Oakland Institute, over the past 3 years, almost 50 million acres of farmland have been either purchased or are in the process of being purchased, with a substantial increase in just the last six months.

So, what does this all mean?

It means that buying this land will severely prevent the poorer countries from feeding their own citizens, leading to an increase in starvation- and dehydration-related deaths. What is happening is the land purchased is used to grow crops, which are then sent to the country who owns the land, not to the country that holds the land. However, only around 30% of the grain produced goes toward feeding the masses. In 37% of these cases, the crops are used for growing grains that will then be used for the production of biofuels, further fueling the debate that our addiction to oil is killing us. Furthermore, the countries in which land is being purchased are mainly in areas that are subject to severe drought. So, the land acquisitions include water, which in turn, deprives the hosting country of its own resources.

The question now is, what can we do about it? There is a growing suspicion that citizens in the poor countries will begin to ambush the trucks carrying the grain before it reaches its destination, furthering the social and political unrest. I, for one, fully support the locals in their attempts to rectify this ghastly situation. 

Fi Amanillah.

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Saturday, March 19, 2011

Blood Money and Protests

On January 27, 2011, Raymond Davis, a CIA contractor for the United States, shot and killed two Pakistani men in Lahore. Davis claimed he shot the men in self-defense, which is contradictory to the police report from the scene of the crime in which police described the shooting as "cold-blooded murder." Nonetheless, the US held that Davis had diplomatic immunity. On Wednesday, March 16, 2011, Davis was acquitted of murder, when the family of both of the victims pardoned him. Under Islamic law, the family of the victim can simply forgive the accused in exchange for a monetary settlement. In this case, the settlement was reportedly around $2 million.

My feelings toward the ruling are divided. On the one hand, the concept of forgiveness to the murderer is one I wholeheartedly accept and promote. When I heard about this, I was stunned by how beautiful it was. In fact, it brought a tear to my eye to see how it is possible for people to forgive others despite the offense. On the other hand, my Western mindset is screaming, "YOU JUST LET A MURDERER GO FREE!" And, unless Davis has a change of heart from that experience, he will continue to kill under the protective cloak of the United States.

But many Pakistani citizens are not happy with the ruling, and protests are being initiated. They do not accept that an American can come into their country and kill their citizens and be acquitted, while a Pakistani can do the same in America and be sentenced to 86 years in prison, as was the case with Aafia Siddiqui, a Pakistani scientist who pulled a gun on a US military guard in February of 2010. Furthermore, family friends and neighbors are standing firm that the Pakistani government forced the families to sign documents of forgiveness in secret at the behest of the United States, while the US denies that they made any form of payment to the families of the victims, leaving everyone wondering who, if anyone, compensated the families. After the ruling, the families disappeared, so the events surrounding the entire case is still a mystery.

To make matters worse, US forces carried out an airstrike in the village of Datta Khel that killed 40 people only one day after the ruling that freed Davis. Pakistani army chief said that the attack against civilians who had gathered to discuss local land issues was "carelessly and callously targeted with complete disregard for human life."

The longer I live and the more I discover about the barbarous actions of the United States, the more ashamed I am to be called American. When will the citizens of this country rise up in protest like so many of these oppressed Middle Eastern countries? Or have we become so lazy and indifferent that, as a whole, we no longer care?

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

On Being a Woman

I adore being a woman. All praise goes to the Creator on this one. He blessed me with good genes and a body that I am proud to call my own. I love that I am an emotional creature, filled with love, empathy, and compassion. I feel very grateful to be a woman in this generation. I am not as restricted as women in the earlier part of the century who fought tooth-and-nail for the freedoms that I enjoy today: the right to vote, the right to go to college, the right to have a career. All of these things are very important to me, yet none of these are reasons why I love being a woman the most.

My reasons for why I embrace my femininity are the same reasons why most women despise their own. I say this in confidence, for I used to feel the same disdain, but the reason I love being a woman the most is because we are blessed with a menstrual cycle.

Yes, periods. Disgusting, bloody, crampy, achy, bloated periods. I used to dread waking up in the morning, my panties soaked in blood, my stomach, breasts, and back aching incessantly. I preferred to stay in bed in my sweatpants for the entire week, avoiding all human contact until this horrid curse went away.

I don’t even remember when my mind changed. There was no revelation. The facts on how I was different from a man were always there. Just one day my period came, and I didn’t despise it anymore. This may have simply been a result of me growing up or growing accustomed to the workings of my body. Regardless, I have come to embrace this part of my womanhood.

When you consider it carefully, you will find that it is a beautiful thing. Menstruation makes us unique and sets us apart. For centuries, women were revered because of their disparate capability to bleed without dying, but now it has become something to be hated. I think the reason for this is because we do not understand the fascinating history behind this event or the responsibility we have as women to preserve the sanctity of it.

Growing up in the south, with chicken houses at every corner, or even in the backyard for some, you learn a little bit about how hens lay eggs. The equal parts of sun and moon determine a hen’s laying cycle. After the discovery of electricity and the invention of the light bulb, farmers figured out that they could increase productivity in hens to lay eggs by increasing the amount of light that they received. In the same way, women’s cycles are also affected by the amount of light that we receive. In ancient days, the moon’s effect was very powerful on a woman’s body, and the lunar cycles alone determined a woman’s cycles. Another thing that had an effect on menstruation in those days were women’s bonds to each other. They were dependent on each other, and they realized our interconnectedness to all people and how nature heavily influences our bodily processes. As a result of the link that they shared to each other and to nature, all of the women in those days bled at the same time! But today, due to increased amounts of light and our disengagement with other women, or just people in general, our cycles have been disrupted. We hurt more than we should. Our moods are more erratic than what they should be. We ignore or are too distracted by our “plight” that we can’t focus on creating like we were intended to during this time.

Women’s levels of creativity were enhanced during menstruation, and the results of this were pivotal in the development of civilization. One example is that from women’s close observations of the moon due to menstruation, math and astronomy were born. And creativity in menstruating women, did not end in ancient times. During their monthly cycle, females are inclined to make better grades on exams and have a higher productivity level at work.

But with menstruation comes a great and welcome responsibility. We now have the ability to carry life inside of us! And not only to carry life inside of us, but to sustain that life once it reaches the outside world. God chose us, above men, to be a vessel for future generations. He trusts us with that responsibility. Now tell me, how can I not adore being a woman?

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Monday, October 11, 2010

Columbus Day

As a child, I remember reading about Christopher Columbus. I even remember the little song that helped us keep his name in our memory: "In 1492, Columbus sailed the ocean blue." It is easy to remember these kind of things when you put a catchy tune to it. Our teachers told us all about the wonderful things Columbus did and how he discovered a brand new world, preparing the way for life as we know it today.

Fuck life as we know it today. I would rather live in Europe with no idea of this New World than to know that my ancestors were responsible for the genocide of one of the most peaceful groups of people that ever lived.

As an adult, you begin to realize how naive you were as a child. Back then, people tell you how things are or were, and that's that. If an adult says it, it must be true. When you become an adult, you realize how little you actually know about life and about history. When I found out who Christopher Columbus really was, I was appalled. To be honest, I felt my guts wrench. My stomach turned, and I literally got nauseous as my eyes filled with tears. My only thoughts were, how could we have been so misguided? Who decided that this was the curriculum that would be taught to the children? and how on God's green earth could that pathetic excuse for a man have been allowed to do these horrible things to such a gentle group of people?

If you have yet to be informed of the horrific events that happened at the hand of Columbus, you should really enlighten yourself. It will be hard to take at first. You will have to ignore everything that you previously believed to be true. Because they are not true. Everything you have been told is a lie.

The thing that leaves the bitterest taste in my mouth is that despite the generosity of the indigenous (including their willingness to save the lives and supplies of all of Columbus's men), Columbus and his men enslaved them, tortured them, raped them, and within 50 years had completely wiped out the entire population (that at one time consisted of about 3 million natives).

Three. Million. People. In fifty years.

And we have a day revering this torturous bastard. But Columbus is not the only one. Andrew Jackson did the same thing, and he is on our money. There are many examples. Why do we celebrate evil people and kill the peaceful ones? Society is twisted. Things must change if humanity is to survive. Evil will not be able to continue forever. At some point, the peaceful have to rise above and instill a change in the hearts of people.
Let today be that day. Start with yourself. And stop celebrating someone not worthy of your praise.